Depression- the word is either used too much or not enough.
Upon hearing that someone may be depressed, some just look the other way as if it's not real, as if it's a trend or not as bad as the guy next door. Some may treat it with medication, therapy, and may even suggest medidation.
I heard a statistic from 2013, that 437 children die from cancer, that is one too many, and 4,600 individuals ages 10-24 will take their own lives. I am one hundred percent positive the numbers have increased since, sadly. So. Are we judging too quickly when some one may be depressed? Are we shrugging it off as if it's not a thing. Let me tell you something...
Unless you have mentally experienced the battles a depressed person fights- you have no say. Unless you have felt your own heart beat fasten it's pace because your lungs are trying to grasp for air due to heavy tear flow that became silent- you can not point fingers. Unless you felt the utter darkness that surrounds the mind and the heart of the person- you will not say one word. Unless you held a sobbing, out of breath, crying body- do not just shrug and look the other way. Unless you accepted all the lies the voices tell you, unless you felt the smallest bit of hopelessness and you begin to question your own existence- do not talk.
It is real. It is deep. It is scary.
From a Christian perspective, it is easy to say - pray, read your bible, go to God- however, in those dark moments, believe me when I tell you- going to God seems so petty. When everything in you believes that you are nothing, unworthy, and do not deserve goodness, the last thing you will want to do is crawl to a perfect God. I've been taught that when someone thinks of themselves as a mistake on this earth, it is as though we spit in the face of our Creator, since He created us. How disrespectful, and in those moments that just adds on as to why you may not have the right to go to Him.
So please know, if you ever face a person who may seem sad, whose eyes are puffy from crying themselves to sleep, who are always tired- hold them. Hold them so tight to let them know that their beating heart matters. Do not judge, you have no right until you have felt what the person has felt.
This post is an awareness post. I don't think it's a topic anyone is comfortable talking about, and even when faced with a sad person we try to find remedies, therapists and medication for them. Quite frankly, most of the time depression can be easily treated with people around them being intentional, understanding and invested. Every outburst, every complaint, every tear drop- embrace them. Hold their weak bodies, and then, use words like "you are wonderful, you are everything this moment needs right now, you are not ignored." Repeat those words to them as much as it is necessary. Become a broken record, don't let them feel as though they are one- show them who they are when they can not see it themselves.
Something needs to be done, this generation has so many smiling faces with sad eyes and everyone turns their back for more severe illnesses, more important needs, and bigger challenges. But if we can help and be on the look out for just one sad heart, we may save a hundred. If we stop one pair of eyes from watering, we may touch an unimaginable number of lives.
It will be tiring. It will be hard. It will take time. But remember it's real. It's hard. And we all can help.
My heart goes out to those who struggle with depression and feel as though they have to hide, we can help them fight this.